Traditional dating, before the internet was popular was a daunting task for singles looking to enter the singles and dating market. Before online dating emerged, asking people out on a date meant risking rejection not to mention losing some self confidence. Once upon a time knowing how and where to begin and which approach to use wasn’t easy.

Plucking up the confidence to approach singles in person and asking them on a date could perhaps result in complete disappointment, not to mention the embarrassment if your mates found out, or it may result in excitement and satisfaction if they excepted the offer to go on a date with you.

Thanks to new technology online dating and chat rooms have taken away most of the scare factor singles used to have to contend with. The “online” scene has opened up many options for guys and girls across the whole world. 15 years ago the thought of chatting online to a potential date in a foreign city or country was not heard of nor was it even possible. Online dating and chat rooms have recently made this possible.

What makes this “online” dating method so great is that we can now chat to singles and also friends from any country or state as if they were right next door to us. Dating in cyber space is upon us, and it takes out the whole scare factor of worrying about rejection if your advances don’t go the right way. It may also take days or months to locate someone else your attracted to and if you do the rejection from the previous effort is still ringing loudly.

There is an avalanche of online dating services now days. Singles have thousands of profiles to select from. The dating concept now becomes a numbers game, perhaps a law of averages. When you chat to a person you fancy and it doesn’t move on to a romantic level, before you realize you will have forgotten them and will have shifted onto the next member.

The Online dating idea just gets better. With all the dating sites after for your membership there is also free online dating. that’s right “free”. Many webmasters who own the free online dating services make money from advertising on their dating websites so this really is a a win win arrangement between the dating site company and their members. Just like the non paid websites, some “free” sites have chat rooms, video cam chat and singles profile matching.

If you have not tried to meet singles this way you are without doubt limiting your options to mingle and meet members of the opposite gender, and further more, you know they are single and looking so alot of the job is done before you even make contact with other members. Dating for newbie’s has never been so easy to access singles of all types.

An excellent way to start is to check out one of the general chat rooms online. You can sit back, watch and participate on the chat session when you feel comfortable. If you click with one of the other singles in the chat room, you can move on to a private “chat room” and chat privately via video cam chat and actually look at the person you are chatting to in now time.

So if this all sounds really exciting – which online dating is, remember it can all be done for free and in the convenience of your home. So get on the band wagon now to begin online dating today and meet real “singles”

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A lot of people cry that they don’t have luck in their private life, that they can’t find the right person, who fits them in interests and life style.

Online dating gives the best opportunity in this respect to have choice in finding a partner, who meets your expectations.

Millions singles are looking for their half. Online dating has so many categories, and gives you really a unique opportunity to make a best choice.

You can start dating based on your interests. For instance international dating gives you a chance to improve your language skills, if you are looking for  native speaker. You can find a partner for serious relationship and for friendship. It’s up to you.  Bikers have their own program Biker Kiss, Equestrians have also a dating site developed especially for them.

If you are looking for religious oriented partner, there is today a great choice in Christian dating, Catholic dating, Muslim dating, Lds and so on.

For people, who are looking for  date based on the income of the partner, exists millionaire dating.

If you are looking for hot dating then you can find a variety of sexy dating sites.

Online dating becomes more and more popular and it is really good, that  people have the opportunity to find that partner, with whom they will be able to enjoy spending time together indeed.

You don’t need to tackle your friends to help you to meet someone, whom, perhaps, they know and who would fit you.

You don’t need to think where to go to get a chance to meet someone.

All you need is a computer and internet connection and your destiny is in your hands.

Think about your profile attentive, make  good photos and enjoy contacts, because a lot of people are dreaming to meet exactly you. Besides, online dating gives people a lot of fun.

And if you are not satisfied with one partner, you have a good chance to find another contact.

Even if you are looking for long term relationship such sites like perfectmatch give you a best opportunity to find a life partner.

A lot of people date, fell in love, get married and feel happy!

If you want to stop dating online you can do it any time. There is no obligation. Everything is up to you. But most of the people enjoy this huge online community.

So, take your chance and start your online dating!

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Is it possible that after a few bad experiences with local women, you are now considering the possibility of taking an overseas bride? Maybe you have a taste for adventure or are intrigued by what is unfamiliar. Whatever the reason, below are some answers to questions you may have.

1. Are overseas brides only for losers who can’t find partners in their own countries?

Of course not. It is an unfortunate truth that overseas brides sometimes attract the sorts of men that nobody back home wants, but they represent only a fraction of the men who choose overseas brides. Don’t forget that a couple of decades ago people considered “computer dating” to be a way for nerds to find dates – but today it has become a popular and accepted way to find a partner.

2. Are mail order brides all money hungry green card hounds?

Mostly not. Be careful of course – it IS a jungle out there. Just as loser men seek “mail order brides”, so do scamstresses see Western men as walking green cards (with luck they’ll all end up married to the losers). You should at least consider the services on an international matchmaking agency rather than going it alone on the free Internet sites, because if they’re reputable, then part of their fees go towards weeding out the scammers.

3. What do these women want, anyway?

The good ones want the same thing local women want -home, family, children, and love. As for the bad ones – well, need I even go into it? The point is that there are good ones out there.

4. Why are these women looking abroad for men?

A lot of reasons:

(i) They may be facing a life of poverty at home.

(ii) Their culture may relegate women to a low social status – after all, in some cultures a wife is considered little more than a maid / nanny / baby factory.

(iii) “Western guys look like movie stars” – I’m serious. Asia is the only part of the world where I get told I look like Mel Gibson. Well, we’re both white, but I’m fairly certain that’s about where the resemblance ends. But thanks anyway, Hollywood! .

(iv) It’s cold at home! If you were a Russian woman, wouldn’t you have to seriously consider a proposal from a man who lived in Orlando?

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If your looking for love and happen to live in or are just visiting Australia then there truly is no better place to go to than Australia. Aussies are though of by many to have the friendliest people in the world and anyone visiting Australia can expect to be welcomed with open arms by the locals.

Australian cities are full of friendly singles , there are countless opportunities to meet the locals. Some hot spots include the insane night life, pubs and bars that offer 24/7 bar service where shows and bands are always there to entertain. During summer the Aussie culture is in full view on one of their many coastal or city beaches. Restaurants and cafes are a constant buzz in Australia’s major cities.

Dating sites are another location that the Australians are fond of. Dating sites in Australia have a combined local membership of around 3 million singles . If you are serious about finding a boyfriend or girlfriend then you should check out the Aussie dating sites . Even for singles visiting Australia, the dating sites there are an excellent way to get social instantly with a few easy clicks of your mouse. No doubt many travellers visiting Australia will be on a tight budget, to help save you some money do an internet search for free dating sites , you will be amazed to find that there are several free dating sites online that absolutely anyone can join up to without costing you 1 cent.

The most popular Australian city is Sydney, its also the most populated city which has all the things attached that international cities carry such as all the latest trends, night life – bars and night clubs, crime, drugs-sex-rocknroll if you get my drift. Sydney is also said to be Australia’s most fertile city and is full of young trend setters who live for the moment!

If your new to Australia be sure to get started on one of their dating sites , everyone over there is doing it, its so easy to meet other singles on their dating sites, you would think there’s a catch, but no, just 100% pure fun in the land of the lucky people!

International Dating

By Carl “J.C.” Pantejo, Copyright March 2008

(Author “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor,” Copyright August 2007. Pantejo – Y.N. Vurce Publishing.)

“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…”

*Below is the nineteenth episode based on a series of real life events experienced by the author. The only deviations from the truth may be the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in “My Friend Yu – the Prosperity Mentor: Book II,” Pantejo – Y.N. Vurce Publishing. Release Date: 2008.

The naïve customer (a person not savvy at “The Game” of Thai bars) doesn’t understand the following: The main thing a Bar Girl sees when a man comes into their bar is the amount of dollar signs he is capable of producing.

And, of course, Bar Girls are experts at helping customers part with their money!

This article is mainly for those fearless souls who, in spite of the discussions we had about Asian Bar Girl/Western Man Relationships in “Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (18)…,” still insist on having a serious relationship with a Bar Girl.

- A Blissful State -

Congratulations.

You believe that you have found a partner that loves you and makes you happy. She is young, beautiful, sweet, and sexy – everything you could not find in your home country, right?

Sure, she is not perfect, especially in the language and finance areas; but when you weighed the Pluses against the Minuses on Your Scale, the Scale tilted toward Obvious Compatibility.

- Devil’s Advocate -

Okay, now I got to be the a$$hole, the party-pooper, the spoiler, etc.

But I do this with ultimate empathy, my friend.

I do this because I don’t want you to end up as a statistic, one of the thousands of Farangs (Thai: foreigners) that think they’ve found the woman of their dreams, only to find out (in short order) that reality doesn’t match their idealized notions of co-habitation with an Asian woman.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but believe me, what I’ve got to say may:

1. Save you a lot of heartache, headaches, and bankruptcy.

2. Help you maintain (or improve) your current blissful state for as long as possible.

3. Raise some questions whose answers, however distasteful, will make you a wiser Farang in Thailand.

- Questions -

Where did you meet your Thai girlfriend/wife?

In a bar?

I ask you this because the ole’ saying: “You can take the girl out of the bar, but you can’t take the bar out of the girl,” is a tried and true axiom.

The cruel fact is that there are only two times you can trust a Thai Bar Girl:

1) When she has just begun her career in the Bar Girl Profession and

2) When she is a bar-weary veteran, ready to retire.

All others are “in between” (i.e., still on “active duty,” practicing and perfecting their sex appeal, schemes, and routines).

A mid-career Bar Girl in “The Game” is quite a sight to be seen, indeed.

She means to be a key player in “The Game” and will do anything to get the most money, as fast as she can, from the “customer pool – men”.

For these women, men are only regarded as: past customers, prospective customers, current cash cows, or merely toy/playthings that pay).

In their minds, men are definitely not: friends, lovers, non-paying boyfriends or husbands; in short, men are merely things, not real people with feelings, hopes, and desires).

Why is this so?

Although each Bar Girl is a unique individual, the following are common reasons. In part or parcel, these conditions contribute to their cut throat callousness – the “sharp teeth within their cute, beautiful smiles”:

1. Professional Objectivity (staying focused on making money before she gets too old and “unmarketable”).

2. Protection from scoundrels (yes, there are many bad men out there).

3. A lack of “good men role models” in their lives. That is, most of the men they’ve seen throughout their lives were usually uneducated, lazy, abusive, or unreliable, often disappearing for years to forever. This is common in the rural, poverty stricken areas “up country” – North Eastern Thailand.

4. Protection from being emotionally hurt. Since most foreigners come and go rapidly, it’s stupid for them to get emotionally attached.

5. The only support system they have is the Bar’s social network of fellow Bar Girls, Mamasans, clean-up boys, and “katoys” (Thai: transsexuals). Leaving the bar scene means venturing into scary, uncharted waters without her usual friends.

6. Most are uneducated, not attending or finishing High School. What would they do and where would they go if they left the bar?

7. They have tried (or simply dislike) regular “daytime jobs” and were disillusioned with the hard work and low pay. The bar scene is all they know. It can be fun. It’s easy – all one has to do is look pretty and entertain – AND definitely pays better.

It’s a system that swallows up thousands of “fresh from the farm” girls and spits out seasoned, “bar-tested” veterans.

- True Love? -

A young serviceman friend of mine in Japan told me that the woman (an Asian woman) he met at a bar in the infamous “honch” area outside of Yokosuka U.S. Naval Base was truly in love with him.

He actually considered asking her to marry him.

And he wanted some advice from “a salty dog” (meaning: me).

His naivety was painful to observe.

In him, I saw a young version of myself, full of all the right motives, but without the where-with-all that only comes from years of schlepping in and out of Asian bars.

My response to him?

“Go back there and tell her you’re out of money. Better yet, tell her that you want to move in with her, but you need to borrow money until payday. Good luck, son. I’ll talk to you next week.”

Of course, he was singing a totally different tune when I saw him a week later. He was very pissed-off and his comments about her were acidic, bordering on murderous.

I told him to chill out.

“Don’t’ take it personal. A girl’s got’ta eat. Think of it this way: You’re mixing her business with your pleasure. If you really think it’s love, wait, wait, and wait! And for God’s sake always know where your valuables are!” I said.

I don’t’ know whether my words sunk in (or not) because I haven’t heard from him for over a decade now. I can only hope that my words prevented a few personal disasters.

Ah, Bar Girls. I could go on and on about them.

They’re amazing. Aren’t they?

They’re terrible. Aren’t they?

- Some Advice: Take it or Leave it, Your Choice -

Since only a fraction of one percent of Asian Bar Girl/Western Man relationships succeed (usually because she is either a rookie or a ready-to-retire veteran), I will be submitting a short list of things to ponder at the end of this article.

If you met your “compatible partner” in a bar, I advise you to have a healthy paranoia.

Don’t go buying a car for her. Or even worse, a house in her name! (As ridiculous as this may sound, it happens frequently in Thailand).

In short, don’t go broke over her.

I have too many friends who have taken out unsecured, personal loans and maxed out their credit cards over Bar Girls who’ve long since disappeared.

In fact, I know of three individuals who came home from work to a barren house or apartment. No furniture, refrigerator, TV, stereo, clothes, dishes, etc.! Everything was gone! Nothing, I mean nothing was left! My friends literally had to borrow money for food and sheets!

Best advice?

Just wait and watch.

It might sound like a prison sentence to you, but waiting and watching not only protects you from being ransacked; it also gives you time to observe her true character – in every light.

How long?

A good rule of thumb, if she says she’s new, is at least triple the time she “says” she’s been working in the bar. Of course, you may never know the true length of her Bar Girl career; so it’s a safe bet to assume whatever she tells you about it is a “low-ball” lie.

If she’s a veteran, waiting at least 18-24 months is a conservative time span to consider.

Patience and wariness will prevent much of the emotional turmoil and financial catastrophes so commonly found among “ex” Asian Bar Girl/Western Man relationships.

Additionally, if she is (or looks) older than 20, look for the following hallmark signs of veteran Bar Girls:

1. Nocturnal living. Even after months with you, she can’t get out of bed until 1:30-3:30PM. In fact, getting up early to see the sunlight gives her a raging headache. Also, she will display the demeanor of a vampire that has been violently disturbed from her cryptic slumber.

2. She is a total slob (worse than Oscar from “The Odd Couple”) and can’t cook – even a piece of toast – because she’s too used to hotel cleaning staff, room service, restaurants, and 7-11 “cup noodles”.

3. She appears to have very few belongings. Why? They are strewn about her co-workers apartments or “ex” boyfriend’s places. Bar Girls are like gypsies; they are experts at making hasty get-aways.

4. She’s a spendthrift. Forget “like water through her fingers,” “air” is more like it! The cost of her “daily needs” easily surpass the normal, daily salary of any hardworking, college-educated, Thai worker.

5. In spite of no formal schooling (i.e., a university degree or night English classes at a Language School), she suspiciously speaks above-average English.

6. She disappears at a moment’s notice for hours and her explanation upon returning doesn’t hold water (a blatant lie).

7. She can drink you under the table.

8. You find drug paraphernalia.

9. She always wants to include “her friends” in everything that you two do. In fact, she will always choose time with her Bar Girl comrades over any time alone with you. Her overdependence on (and lavish affection for) her girlfriends will have you wondering if she is actually a bi-sexual. (And I know what you’re thinking. No, she is not a bi-sexual who likes to share!).

10. She’s constantly on the phone at odd hours with her “family,” especially the male members of her “family”.

If the majority of the above items describe your current partner, she is probably not in the “newbie” Bar Girl category: and therefore, should not be trusted without a long (a very long) trial period.

Sorry to be so blunt; but I must humbly confess that I’ve “been there and done that, mate”.

Again, when in doubt, wait, observe, and for God’s sake, protect yourself.

Did you hear me?

I said, “Wait. Observe. Then wait and observe some more.”

After that, you can make up your own mind based on your own real life, “hard-knocks” experience.

Continued in “Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (20): Maintaining and Improving your Good Tilt.”

“Until next time, find ‘The Flow’ and jump in!”

Your Friend in this Intrepid Journey called Life,

Carl “J.C.” Pantejo

Farang, Asia, compatible, relationship, bar girl, sex, pluses, minuses, advice, wait, watch, scale, needs, desires.

Note: If you want to read more about Asian and Western cultural differences, finding unconditional love, exorcising past personal demons, and the Illusive Secret of Happiness, please read the following articles:

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’: From Heartbreak to Happiness”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (2): Coincidence or Synchronicity: FROM RELAPSE TO MIRACLES…”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (3): LOST AND FOUND – Kindred Spirits and Mistakes made in Haste.”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (4): LOST AND FOUND – Meant to Be?”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (5): “The Stray”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (6): “New Beginnings, Old Endings”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (7) – Living Well? Farangs and Finance: The Myth”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (8) Living Well? Farangs and Finance: The Reality, Stupidity, and Hard Knocks.”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (9): New Girlfriend, New Life.”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (10): Farangs and Asians – Polarized Views.”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (11) – Farangs: In (or considering) a long-term Western/Asian Relationship? Read This Now!

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (12) – Farang: Square Peg, Round Hole? Compatibility Issues.”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (13) – Farang: Compatibility Issues II”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (14) – Farang: Tipping the Scales. Good or Bad?”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (15) – Farang: Interpretation of Your Results.”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (16) – Farang: Make Your Scale Sway or Walk Away.”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (17) – Farang: Further Interpretation. Lopsided Scales.”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (18): A Good Tilt with a Bar Girl?”

“How Dare She! Out of Desperation I Learned How to Forgive”

“Remember Who You Are!”

“Need to Heal Your Broken Heart? Read on. Overcome Heartbreak and Learn the Illusive Secret of Happiness.”

(By Carl “J.C.” Pantejo and published internet-wide, keyword: [title of article] or “Carl Pantejo”)

Pantejo@ynvurcepublishing.com