Nice Thai Girls Versus Thai Bar Girls

If you search the internet for tales of foreign men falling in like with Thai girls you’re bound to find hundreds of posts articles and tales that have been written over the years. The amusing thing is many of the tales you’ll find end wickedly. The reason for this is pretty apparent.

Typically you’ll see in the tale that the writer has been warned about Thai bar girls and yet they continue on thinking “it will by no means happen to me”. Every month there are tales to be found about Americans, Australians and Europeans either life bankrupted or even committing suicide in Pattaya and Patong over Thai bar girls. We may by no means know the entire certainty about these tragedies, but they carry a similar theme.

What is it that makes men ignore the fact that many relationships with Thai bar girls end so wickedly? Why do they reckon that they are different and that their Thai girlfriend will work out as a romance or marriage, even though she’s come from the type of life lived in the bars?

Would these men behave the same way, with the same expectations in their home countries? Would they lean-to up with a prostitute and expect her to be loving and faithful? I don’t really reckon so, and it makes me scratch my head to reckon they have these expectations simply because they are in Thailand.

Maybe they only do this in Thailand because they can’t afford it in their home countries. Or maybe they somehow lose their minds in the craziness that is Thailand. Perhaps it’s their own way of coping with culture shock. Whatever the case, if you’re in a relationship with a Thai girl take a look at this list of questions you should be asking yourself:

1. Does your wife or girlfriend hide her phone calls? Does she get calls at all hours of the night? Doesn’t that make you suspicious? It should.

2. Is your girlfriend or wife always asking for money to send home? Is it the same amount each month? Not definitive, but could indicate a boyfriend or husband back in the home village that she is supporting.

3. If your Thai girl has piercings besides her ears or tattoos it a huge warning sign of a bar girl or former bar girl. Excellent Thai girls don’t do this. This is changing somewhat for the younger generation but so may not be conclusive if your wife or girlfriend is under 25.

4. The largest indicator of all. Are her friends involved in prostitution? As with any other profession or lifestyle, like types tend to be drawn collectively because of similar experiences.

The best thing to do is just do common sense. I know it’s simple to lose your bearings when seeing all the wonderful available girls in Thailand, but try to maintain a sense of normalcy. You may not be used to so much attention from wonderful girls, but get used to it, it’s just like that in Thailand for a foreigner.

Try to reckon with your higher brain, not the one between your legs. While your new life in Thailand may seem surreal at times try to maintain a sense of reality amongst the lunacy. Keep your usual filters about what is right and incorrect in place. Too many men seem to deal with the newness of Thailand by setting up a new category in their brain called “This is Thailand”. Anything new or weird gets place through this filter and passes simply because “This is Thailand”" and not the same as your homeland. Some things really are the same dude.

The same evasive behavior from your girlfriend that would set off alarms in your home country should be setting off alarms here in Thailand. Just because all else is different around you doesn’t mean that it’s normal for your new girlfriend to hide things from you or glide off into abusive rages at no provocation.

Take note to your inner voice and if it’s telltale you something is incorrect then get away. Things may be different in Thailand, but girls are girls everywhere and Thai girls are not that much different from the girls at home. Girls at home lie and cheat and guess what, so do Thai girls. It’s still not the norm, but it is common, especially for the girls that tend to be attracted to foreigners in the first place. Take your time and find a nice Thai girl and you’ll be much more pleased in the long run.